The Self-Compassion and Self-Responsibility Dance

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When we hit the road on the personal growth path, we are often faced with paradox.  

I happen to think it’s because we live in a paradox world.  Want to feel joy?  Gotta know what pain is.  In fact, have to be willing to feel both.  You get it.

Today I want to touch upon the paradox of self-responsibility and self-compassion.

I’ve been deep diving of late into the book “The Little Money Bible” after our December You Matter International Money Mindset workshop.  In fact, I’m having fun sharing a quote a day inside of our You Matter International FB group in order to keep meditating on quotes from it this month.

One quote in particular says “I hope you will see that in some instances, compassion can be described as the manifestation of love in action.  And that money is, in part, the fuel by which you express greater compassion- by transcending a poor self-image, loving yourself, being there for others; and by being grateful for the immense gift that has been bestowed upon you, the first and greatest gift you will ever receive- the gift of life.” - Stuart Wilde, The Little Money Bible

Ah!  I love looking at money, and receiving it, in connection with the practice of self-love and self-compassion.  In another part of the book however, he shares that “people now realize that they are responsible for their own empowerment.  They see that taking responsibility is a spiritual act; it allows each one the freedom to become more.  Accepting responsibility is an uncomfortable thing, for within that idea is the birth of the true individual.”

Ultimately then, our abundance or lack thereof, is part of accepting our responsibility for where we are at in the world.  And taking responsibility sounds great, until you become a victim of something atrocious, or you get diagnosed with that illness, or you are simply born into rotten circumstances.

So how do we honor our victimhood to life while looking to claim our wholeness, our healing, our empowerment?  

I think that it lies in accepting a metaphysical responsibility for where we find ourselves now, as conscious adults, in life, because it is from here that we can then find the empowered view that brings us the traction to move into a renewed state of living. It is then that we can claim our power in life so as to move forward with forgiveness, love, strength, and wisdom.  From there we can then truly live life with joy, abundance, and loving relationships.  

You might ask then how do I rectify becoming fully self-responsible for where I am in my life, with money and with health and with all of the things, while also having heaps of loving self-compassion for what has come about? Can I lovingly accept my imperfections, my falls, my moments of victimhood and my moments as perpetrator in order to be more fully human?  A human capable of being a bigger vehicle for real love, which sees all, accepts all, and chooses to embody and gift big heapings of acceptance to the world?  

I think that holding a very loving and compassionate dose of self-responsibility is key to claiming a fulfilling life.  Maybe in fact, it’s totally an expression of self-love to accept self-responsibility (empowerment) for being able to be with life as it is.  And from as it is, we can then steer our life towards that which we want to create, all while holding huge heaps of self-love and self-compassion for the as-isness of life now.

I love that the quote on self-compassion in The Little Money Bible actually would then imply that by holding that, we actually align more to loving flow, and ultimately to gratitude and amplification of the metaphysical attraction energy that will bring more of what we are wanting into our lives.

So maybe heaps of self-responsibility (empowered view) and self-compassion can help us to bring about more loving joy in the world, manifest as action, energy, and money, that we can then spread around for the good of life!

This is certainly my mission, and I am grateful for the many of you who are aligned on this path!

Here is to a year of heaps of loving self-compassion, coupled with intentional alignment to the flow of love and divine expression in life as our Love Bomber selves.  Here is to the amplification of love in action, of connection, of healing.  Love really is brave isn’t it?

Xo

Dr. Rhea Zimmerman Komarek

P.S. Ready for a deep dive transformation process focused on absolute unconditional loving approval designed to help you amplify your gifts to life?  Consider joining us in the My Love Bomb Program starting February 5 - March 30 or bring it to your town as a My Love Bomb Program Facilitator this year by taking the program virtually February 5th-March 30th and signing up for the 2018 Facilitator Training.